Hey, Gardeners, and hello, March! This month, I want to dedicate this post to my good friend, Shenna. We talked about seasons ending and significant changes occurring in our lives, and I told her she inspired me. She, this one’s for you. 💕

“I’m cutting a lot of people off; I’m changing!”

How often have we heard, said, or felt that? If I had a dollar…let’s just say I would be rich.😂

Society has conditioned us to think that cutting people off or ending certain relationships is all that is needed to enter a season of change. But I want to talk about this from a different perspective. What if the person that you needed to change was you?

Assignments v. Attachments

I want to touch on attachments that we subconsciously gather. Rejection, trauma, anger, bitterness—those are not things that a person would readily attach themselves to. However, life has a way of making us familiar with uncomfortable experiences. Sometimes, what we attach ourselves to can interfere with our God-given assignment. That’s why God asks us to submit everything to Him. He knows what happens when we hold on to what is opposite of His word.

Instead of considering attachments and assignments as people, reflect on the traits. You must ask yourself: “Is this a trait of God, and will He recognize me if I embody this?” If the answer is no, you have uncovered an attachment that needs to be changed.

Believe it or not, I unearthed a pattern when I reflected on various seasons of my life, what I was doing, who I was hanging out with, and what I was consuming. In survival mode, I often made rash decisions while also being frivolous. I also hung out with people who did the same.

Once I decided to release that mindset, those attachments crumbled, and poof, the season was over. It took some time, but I realized that those people weren’t terrible; they were operating in a mindset that no longer fit mine, so the assignment was over. It only became a problem because I tried to make them attachments.

Everything is seasonal. Even the candy. 🙃 With that in mind, how can you not see the importance of being attached only to God? I can only speak for myself, but I was often the most sad or disappointed when I tried to hold on to things that were becoming out of season. It was never about the people; it was about my mindset.

We often talk about disconnecting from people, but what if we focused more on detaching from the negativity that held us back? De-center the focus from the flesh and otherworldly things and put it back on God. When the children of Israel came out of Egypt, they were PUMPED. But the minute the newness wore off, they were scared, disgruntled, and ungrateful. They left a season of oppression but forgot to leave the oppressed mindset with the oppressor.

That can happen to us if we don’t take the time to talk to God about what life should look like for us. One of the many things I love about God is how he customizes all our lives. Absolutely nothing seems the same, and it shouldn’t! We are all His children, and when we come together with all of our gifts and talents, we bloom into a people He can use to glorify His kingdom, and it is beautiful.

For this month, I want to challenge you to seek God. Ask Him what needs to change and how to note the difference between an assignment and an attachment. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised with what you find out.😉

Take Care,

Tori B.💕🌻