Hey Gardeners! I hope you guys are having a wonderful weekend and enjoying this weather. I LOVE fall and winter. The temperature, the colors, the fashion—it’s just so much fun. In my last post, I discussed reconstruction. As I stated, I’m constantly rebuilding with a purpose and without fear. So now, I want to talk a little bit more about what I’ve decided to call “The Cure.”

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“Practice makes purpose.”

Healing issues with relationships can only happen if you actively connect with people. The saying is typical, “practice makes perfect.” But, I decided it needed to change to something geared towards growth. When you actively work towards something, you have the drive and momentum to keep going. You have a purpose, and that’s all any of us can do. There are a couple of things that can initiate the transition for the better.

“Rewriting Response Patterns”

“Conversation rules the nation!” That’s a statement I’ve heard for years, and it’s true. Communication makes the world go around. The type of communication depends on the purpose you’re trying to achieve. With conversations come responses. Although we don’t try to, we establish response patterns. Those patterns become the answers we use for the tests that we encounter. The thing about patterns—they can change, or rather, they should change. When you keep having the same difficulties over and over—that’s God’s way of giving you a redo. Meeting the same problem (person) repeatedly and not changing how you handle it is not rewriting the response pattern.

“Calm the Mind—Go with the Flow”

This might be the most challenging thing to do. As a successful over-thinker and detail-driven extraordinaire, one of my biggest hurdles has been calming my mind. “What if I fail?” “What if I don’t?” “What if I was wrong?” “What if I’m not?” Going with the flow is the typical answer you get when discussing this, and it’s not always as easy as it sounds. But taking a few deep breaths and writing some of those rushing waves of thoughts down has done wonders. It’s also allowed me to unwrap specific response patterns and make wiser choices.

“Give Grace”

Give yourself, the process, and the people you encounter the grace you need. “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” As cliché as it sounds, it’s so true. These things take time. Here’s an example: You have one fantastic day, one terrible day, and two blah—or flat days. How many good days did you have because of grace? If you’re operating with a growth mindset, you had 4. Any day you get to live and try your best is a good day.

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So there you have it. That’s the cure. Rewriting response patterns, calming your mind/going with the flow, and giving grace. Of course, the minute you get this down, you’ll have to go back to the drawing board and start over again—but that’s the beauty of change. It’s never-ending. 🥰

Take Care,

—ToriB 💕🌻